Day 2 Fears

2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
1. I have a fear of snakes.  I became afraid of snakes while living overseas in Africa when a green mamba which is poisonous fell out of a coconut tree.  I was afraid of being bitten and dying.  And since I can't tell which snakes are poisnous, I am afraid  of all of them.


2. My second fear is of needles.  Because we lived overseas, we had to take ALOT of shots, some of which hurt alot.  I often have to have someone with me and have passed out when getting blood drawn.

3.  My third fear is a very real fear of relationship failure.  I fear failing and becoming destitute.  It seems irrational that I fear that ANY failure can lead to losing everything but it was born after seeing a very messy divorce that left someone destitute.  I equated failing at relationships with losing everything.  That is one reason why I didn't marry until I was already established. The downside is that this fear makes me somewhat emotionally unavailable.  I have a wall around me....and a fence around my heart that is on high alert...it activates when it senses betrayal, often not allowing me to be too vulnerable.  Which we all know, you must be vulnerable ot be in a real relationship.

Have a great Wednesday!