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Mother of 2, Child of God in Atlanta "They always ask me if I make it am I going to forget about them, but the question is, if I don't make it will they forget about me?" My spin : RealTalk When u are up everyone wants to hang on, but look for the ones that let you lean on when you are down. Remember...don't just look for me when I am up, support me when I'm down. ♥ In prosperity, your friends know you, in adversity, you know your friends. I asked God for strength, I got adversity. I asked God for wisdom, I was made a fool of. I asked for patience, I had a difficult relationship. I looked back, He gave me what I asked for. Adversity showed me I was stronger than I thought; being a fool opened my eyes to discernment making me wise; the difficult relationship showed me that patience is earned not given. Blessings come in many forms, not all of them recognizable.

Friday, December 18, 2015

Happy Holidays

Hi, Bloggers.

I haven't really been blogging....not for lack of trying...so many unfinished drafts.

Sunday, October 25, 2015


This year is easier than last year...and last year was easier than the year before....and I hate that. 

Sunday, October 18, 2015


Good morning, Blogland.

I was sitting here looking over my archives and I realized something.

Wednesday, October 07, 2015

Up for Air...dating chronicles

Good morning, Bloggers.

Yes I am still here.  I haven't felt inspired to write lately.  Let's see what's going on in my world.
I am dating. STILL.....  Why is it the guys start out good then fizzle?!?!?  Maybe it's me.  So let me tell you about the recent crew:

Saturday, September 19, 2015


What do you value?  I heard this question posed in a movie and it made me think, what do I value?

Friday, September 18, 2015

The object invoked has disconnected

I just need to get away from my thoughts.  Some days I think I am ok, then I get a reminder that I am mentally fragile.

Tuesday, September 08, 2015


I was living in Atlanta in 2009.  I had seen her at different poetry events around town.

Franchise Player or Nah

So I have found another new blog....Freckles .

Tuesday, September 01, 2015

Empathy...I get it now

One of the most fascinating blogs I have found is written by a Grady Doctor in Atlanta.

Monday, August 31, 2015

Tuesday, August 25, 2015

PS to my STUCK Post

The Stuck post was kind of timely in a weird way.  Celine Dion's husband Rene is dying..and when they interviewed her,

Ahhhh....it's 1991 again

I was transported back to 91 again this weekend. I debated whether to write about this. So Back in 1991, I was in love with "Philly". At that time, I was active duty and was stationed on a ship that went in the shipyards in Philadelphia.  I met Philly a little before that (sometime in 1990) when I was stationed in Norfolk and burning up the highway between PA and VA since that is where my mom lived.  So while I was stationed at home, we became inseparable.

Monday, August 24, 2015

Day 22 Visions

22. Where do you see yourself in 5 years? 10 years? 15 years?

Day 21. Superwoman

21. If you could have one superpower, what would it be and what would you do with it first?

Hmmm...ESP Extra Sensory Perception.  The first thing I would do would be to use the ability to communicate with spirits and talk to my mom.

Friday, August 21, 2015

Day 20. I remember that....

20. Describe 3 significant memories from your childhood.

Hmmm  Let's see....I had a pretty terrific childhood.

Monday, August 17, 2015


One of my favorite bloggers is Faith.   I have been following her since she  first started blogging.  I can't even remember how I found her.  But anyway, this isn't what this post is even about.  On August 8, Faith  

Day 19. Living like it's golden

19. If you could live anywhere, where would it be and why?

Exactly where I am now.  I have always wanted to come back to the DMV.  I knew Atlanta would not be my final stop.  I love the history, culture and atmosphere of the metro area.

Wednesday, August 12, 2015


So Monday, I went to an open mic at Busboys and Poets in Shirlington....and I hit the mic...yep...I hadn't really hit the mic since I have been here in the DMV.  I was sprung...again...yes I have missed the mic.  I have missed hearing rhythmic, soul stirring perspectives.  I have missed melodic tales of escapades...yes I am addicted to the mic and Monday, I went and got my fix.

Somehow I let life get in the way and pull me away from my creative outlet...never again.  I will be at it again...coming soon to a mic near you.


Day 18. I forgive you

18. What has been the most difficult thing you have had to forgive?

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

Day 17. I wish I could do that

17. What is the thing you most wish you were great at?

Singing.  Like I wish I could really blow.

Monday, August 10, 2015

Online Dating...some observations

So I have been delving into online dating...and to tell you the truth, I am discouraged.

Day 16 I DID IT!!!!!!!

16. What are your 5 greatest accomplishments?

Tuesday, July 28, 2015

Day 15 Animal Attack

15. If you were an animal, what would you be and why?

hmmm...this is a hard one I got it...I would want to be an Eagle. Eagles have keen eyesight, and have been known to mate while soaring...reducing any chance of mating with a non-eagle.  Why is this important?  Because then I would know that without a doubt, I found who I was meant to be with.

Besides, my favorite scripture mentions Eagles too.

Isaiah 40:31 But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run and not be weary; and they shall walk and not faint.


Monday, July 27, 2015

Day 14 I'm Strong

14. Describe 5 strengths you have.

1. I am flexible.  It may not seem like a strength to you but follow me for a minute.  I can adapt to any environment.  I can go from the classroom to the boardroom, from the country club to the night club, from the suburbs to the hood.  That is a feat not easily mastered.   Don't believe me?  Just try to take someone out of one of those environments where he/she has thrived and stick them in another, most are somewhat awkward, can't seem to find a middle ground and are just downright uncomfortable and it shows.

2. I am analytically driven.  The same weakness is also a strength.  Because I analyze things, I often can vary my approach and reach a consensus among the masses.

3. I am dependable.  I do what I say, am supportive and try to be the best human I can be.

4. I am loyal.  I am loyal.  I can be your biggest ally.  I am supportive and will go to the ends of the earth for those I trust.

5. I am adventurous.    I will try just about anything once.  I jump in my car and will drive to check out a wine festival, a beach or anything that interests me.  I am not afraid to venture out alone.

Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Day 13 I'm Weak

13. Describe 5 weaknesses you have.

I usually don't try to focus on my weaknesses.  It's a problem when I do focus on them because my biggest weakness is

Monday, July 13, 2015

Day 12 It's Typical

12. Describe a typical day in your current life.

A typical day for me starts at 4:30 AM.  I am on the train by 5:30 AM and at my desk at 6.  As am analyst, my days are filled with research, reports and some meetings.  I wrap up my day gig at 3:30, hustle to the train and jump in my car to head to my second hustle.  I work there until 8:00 pm then I head to the gym.  I run about 3 miles on the treadmill, lift some weights, do some crunches.  by 9:45 I head home, shower and change for bed.  I am knocked out by 10:30.  That is my typical day.

Friday, July 10, 2015

Day 11 That Irks me

11. Describe 10 pet peeves you have.

  • People who are late all the time. 
  • Someone who has no manners

Thursday, July 09, 2015

Day 10 I'm embarrassed

10. Describe your most embarrassing moment.

hmmm I have put this question off for a few days.  I have had some embarrassing moments...and I am really trying to remember my MOST embarrassing moment.  It's hard to say.  If you would have asked me about a year ago, something probably would have stuck out because I have always be a "dweller".  You know, one of those people who dwells on a situation and replays it from every angle over and over again.

Tuesday, July 07, 2015


So I was doing a different question a day for 30 days...it's kind of boring so I am going to post about something else today.  Although it rained, I had a great 4th.  I took a friend of mine from Georgia to the city to see the parade, followed by an afternoon at the museum looking at precious gems, butterflies and the like.

Thursday, July 02, 2015

Day 9 Influence

9. List 10 people who have influenced you and describe how.

Wednesday, July 01, 2015

Day 8 Passions

8. What are 5 passions you have?

  • My love for theater/acting
  • My love for my family
  • My love for learning.  I try to learn something new all the time.
  • My day job - I love the intellectual stimulus
  • My love for music.  It can change my mood and lift my spirits.
I am just passionate about life in general now..and that is a good place to be.

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Day 7 Dream Job

7. What is your dream job, and why?

My dream job is to be a successful play write/screen writer.  I love seeing my words come to life.  Telling a story and possibly changing someone's life is something I strive to do daily.  I do love my current job in my dream city though.

Monday, June 29, 2015

Day 6 Hard Things

6. What is the hardest thing you have ever experienced?

Losing my Mom. It was a pain I had never felt before.  I walked around numb for months...then I was angry...and finally devastated.  It was a paralyzing experience because I went from talking to her everyday to her being gone. Not having her has been a challenge.  Now, Most days I can get through without bursting into tears.  Every now and then, something small like a smell, or a phrase can send me into tears, just a small reminder of the hole that was left in my heart the day my mom went to be with the Lord.

Day 5 Happy

What are the 5 things that make you most happy right now?

  • Phone calls from my sons.
  • Peace of mind.
  • My strengthening relationship with God
  • My faith in all things working for the good
  • Friends, family, Favor!

Friday, June 26, 2015


So since I moved back to Maryland...yep MzNewy relocated....I left Atlanta in February 2014, got a divorce and am back in the DMV.  This is where I finished high school.  Anyway, since I moved back to Maryland, I have started participating in 5k run/walks.  My first one of 2015 is August 22.  This is called the Blacklight Run .  I am trying to increase my speed.  I have the endurance thing DOWN! now it is about trying to get down to a 10 minute mile.   So what have you all been up to?   I have been reading/catching up on some of my old favorites.  I really missed blogging.  Life was complicated for a while and I didn't come here to vent.  I should have, but I didn't.  Probably because some folks I know IRL had found this place.  I think they lost interest when I stopped blogging.

Day 4 Advice

4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.
  • Stay in that Performing Arts School, the friends who didn't make it in the school won't even be in your social circle when you are an adult.
  • Don't be in a rush to have sex.
  • It's ok to get into church, you are going to need to get to know Jesus.
  • Stop trying to follow the crowd.
  • Trust your gut. 
  • Apply yourself in school. It's cool to be a nerd.
  • Listen to your mom, she knows what she is talking about.
  • Stop dwelling on your mistakes, that is how you learn.
  • Be friendly but not a doormat.
  • Enjoy your time with your family.
Bonus...Talk to HIM...you may be surprised. 

Thursday, June 25, 2015

Day 3 Parents

3. Describe your relationship with your parents.

I absolutely adored my mom.  It wasn't always that way.  I, like most kids, had a rebellious stage.  When I look back though, I still leaned on her.  I called her everyday and while I didn't always take her advice when she offered it, I often wound up taking it and was Blessed from it.  I miss her everyday. RIP Mommie.

I was a daddy's girl growing up.  I looked up to him.  As I look at him through mature eyes, he is not high up on the pedestal.  I still love him but we are not as close as we used to be.

Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Day 2 Fears

2. Describe 3 legitimate fears you have and explain how they became fears.
1. I have a fear of snakes.  I became afraid of snakes while living overseas in Africa when a green mamba which is poisonous fell out of a coconut tree.  I was afraid of being bitten and dying.  And since I can't tell which snakes are poisnous, I am afraid  of all of them.

Thursday, June 18, 2015

30 Day Challenge...Day 1 20 Random facts about ME

1.  I was born in Athens, Greece

2. I am the middle child of three (older brother, baby sister)

3. I am a perfectionist and get easily frustrated if things get out of order.

4. I get bored easily so I like to be challenged

Wow...I forgot about this place

Hello, Old Friend.

This place used to be my safe haven.  I can't believe I haven't been here in 3 years. So much has happened since I was last here.  Hmmm where did I leave off...

Well let me start from late 2011 to now....

September 2011 I got married.  It was what I thought I wanted at the time. I married someone I had sated back in my 20s.  I was 41 at the time and it was my first marriage.

October 2011, My mom passed away...35 days after I got married. :(  My heart broke.  Earlier that year in May, we found out she had pancreatic cancer.  I tried to remain optimistic but after every chemo session she got sicker and sicker. I fell into a deep depression.

February 2012, I found out my husband was cheating.  Actually I knew before then but I confirmed it with pictures and other proof in February.  I was devastated.  When I confronted him, he left.  Yep just rolled out.  He would come by when I was at work but for the most part he dipped.  I was still grieving the loss of my mother and I poured my grief into a stage play that was well received in Atlanta.  The play debuted June 2nd, 2012.  You know there are certain events that happen that are frozen in time in your mind.  I have 2 such events:  The day my mom died and the day he came back like he hadn't been missing for 4 months.  Right....

Yep so I came home from rehearsal and he was in the bed like he had been coming home everyday for the past 4 months.  I tried to make it work.  I really did.  But see once I say I am done, I am done.  I spent the rest of February and March grieving the relationship.  I was over it by the time he came back but I spent the next year and a half pretending.  In September 2013, I began looking for another job...in another state.  Yep I was leaving Georgia...and him.  I got an offer in January and began my new job in February 2014 in DC.  I got all of my stuff May 2014 and settled into the DC metro.  I filed for divorce and have begun a new chapter in my life.   I love being in the DMV.

So what have you all been up to?

I missed y'all.